Too many times we get caught up in the “I” game. I did this, I did that, I made all of it, or I am the only one who knows what I am doing. This can be poisonous, whether at work or your personal life.
Taking credit is great and it shows how much you do, but at the end of the day you can’t be in a relationship by yourself or do everything in the office by yourself. It all comes down to working as a team. How you and EVERYONE else accomplish something.
When you begin to focus on how you and your partner can help each other vs. how much more you do then they do. You begin to value to person a bit more. It’s about growing with them, not showing off how much more you did than them. Begin to pay attention to how much you use the word “I” and how much you refer back to your personal experiences or accomplishments. While they are great, it can leave a negative impression on those around you. In their eyes you could be a self gloating fool who doesn’t care about them or the team.
This process of talking about yourself and your accomplishments is completely natural. We are trying to establish a presence within out communities in an effort to become some superior figure. “Survival of the fittest”.
Instead of using this as an excuse, use it to change the way to approach the office or your relationships. Work towards “how we can accomplish”. When you work as a team and learn to listen rather than gloat you can actually learn and thing or two. Embrace those around you. Listen to their points of view and ask them how they think about stuff. Learning these key details can help the team grow together. By working together and looking for opportunities to help the team grow, we actually become stronger as individuals. Because at the end of the day we are social begins. We thrive on interactions. So the next time you’re talking with your friends, co-workers, or your partner pay attention to what words you are using. Are you using a lot of “we’s” or are you still stuck on “I did this”.